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Are your desires God’s Will?

We are often shamed by others when it comes to acting on our personal desires, but are our personal desires always ”bad”?  The extreme opposite to the “desires are bad idea” is the idea that emotions are messages from the soul…if that is the case at least some of our desires might actually be God’s Will.  So, how do we know if our desires are so-called ”bad” or are messages of God’s Will?

I think we must first define the word, ”desires.”  A desire is something you want to become, have, and/or experience.  You might desire to have the experience of climbing a mountain.  You might desire a relationship with a particular person.  You might desire to get high.  What is it that separates these desires into the categories of God’s Will versus not God’s Will?

Hang on tight this may get confusing.

A Course in Miracles says that sin is lack of love like darkness is lack of light.  So, let’s run desires through the love meter.

A drug addict may “desire” to get high, but this is not because of an emotional message he/she is feeling from his/her soul…this is because of escaping from an emotional message he/she does not want to feel from his/her soul.  Escaping, if you ask me, is an act of fear not love.

A “desire” to have anonymous sex would be classified as another escaping mechanism used by an addict, this time, a sex addict.  Again, if you ask me, this is an example of a lack of love for the other person and for the self.  I don’t believe your soul (or God) would ever ask you to have anonymous sex.

But, if you have a “desire” to move to a particular place and every time you think about it it makes you very happy…it would appear that that emotion is a positive message from your soul, and since your soul is your personal representative of God’s Will…you might conclude moving to that particular place is God’s Will for you.  On the other hand, if you are getting transferred to a different job at a different location and every time you think about it you cry buckets of tear, you might conclude your soul (and God) are telling you not to go.

But, how does all of this work when it involves the will of another person?  If you have a “desire” to have a relationship with a particular person, because you love them, because you want to give to them (not take from them like a vampire), then we might believe that some type of relationship with that person is a positive message from your soul, e.g. God’s Will.  Although, when it comes to others, it is always a two-way street.  I don’t believe God’s Will would ever ask us to dominate the will of another.  God would make it to where both people had the same willingness to be in some type of relationship with each other…or neither would at all.

If you simply have the “desire” to dominate and control a particular person and in your head you are calling that idea a desire to have a ”relationship,” you would be incorrect…dominating is not relating at all…because it takes two free people to actually ”relate.”  That is why God gave us free will.  Domination and control is a selfish, one person only desire…because the soul of the other will always long to be free.  If you step on a plant and call it love, the plant will still die, and you will still be alone.  Your loneliness will only go away by loving another which means not only allowing but encouraging the other’s freedom.

So, let’s conclude that love is the Will of God…whereas fearful escapism and control is not the Will of God…and that all of our desires can be run through this test…if we actually care to know which desires are of God verses which desires are not of God.

Does your current desire come from love or fear?

It is a privilege to forgive…

A Course In Miracles says, “It is the privilege of the forgiven to forgive.” I was thinking about how true that is. It is sometimes hard to forgive others when they hurt you, but if you, yourself, have ever had a realization about how you have hurt another…you will be glad forgiveness exists. As I think about all who have forgiven me for my selfish mistakes…it is my privilege to forgive all those I have perceived as having harmed me.

Distractions, off course, of course…

If I only realized how much of my life has been spent distracting myself…distracting myself from the things God wanted me to do…I would realize how far I have not come…and how far I could have gone. And so, it is best that I do not know.

But, I do know that today I wish to stop distracting myself.

How easy it is for our logical minds to sway us completely in the opposite direction from which our Spirits would have us go. Our busy minds busy our bodies until we are all involved in someone else’s business instead of our own…and boy! doesn’t that make us feel selfless. When in reality, we are rudderless…and our missions go un-accomplished.

I believe, logical distractions are a great source of stress, and stress, of course, is a great source of illness. Healing begins the moment we begin to hold the hand of God…instead of waving Him on by as if we are a road worker. We wouldn’t need to work on our spot in the road if we would get moving. We’ve been in the same spot so long, walking around in circles, until we’ve cracked the concrete.

It is time that we put down our stop signs and remove our hard heads and start walking with God. Why would we ever have thought anything else was actually wise?

“…my Father in heaven will do it for you.” – Matthew 18:19

“Again, I tell you the truth, if two of you on earth agree about whatever you ask, my Father in heaven will do it for you.” – Matthew 18:19 (NET)

Here’s a thought…

What if the “two of you on earth” that Jesus is referring to above are simply the masculine and feminine sides of each of us…the part of us that exists down here in the world of the relative? What if when we finally bring our personal polarities into balance, into agreement, it rids us of the core conflicts that restrict our ability to receive God’s blessings?

In other words, God would be able to answer our prayers faster if we weren’t so constantly confused about what it is we wanted…and that this confusion is brought on simply by an imbalance of our inner male and female. Our inner masculine and feminine sides must learn to see eye-to-eye, must learn to agree, so we can focus and God can fulfill our requests. We must stop living an extreme version of ourselves.
But, how do we balance our positive and negative, our light and dark, our yang and yin, our left and right, our male and female? Let’s take a look at the general definitions of each by looking at the left brain and the right brain.

According to Paul Devereux in the book, Symbolic Landscapes, “The human brain is divided into two ‘halves’ or hemispheres, separated by a band of over two million fibres called the corpus callosum. In each hemisphere is an area known as the temporal lobe, which seems to be related to dreaming, hallucinations or visions, language and other functions. These two are connected across the corpus callosum by a thin bundle of nerve fibres called the anterior commissure. In very crude terms (it is more complicated than this), the left brain handles speech, logic, analytical thought, stage-by-stage cognition, while the right hemisphere handles gestalt, patterns, connections, intuition, emotion and poetic matters.”

Let’s think about it this way, our analytical male side, left brain, is our “mind,” while our intuitive female side, right brain, is our “heart.” By “mind” I don’t mean brain and by “heart” I don’t mean that pumping muscle in the middle of your chest. The symbolic mind (logic) and heart (emotion) must come into agreement.

I believe it was author Alberto Villoldo who said the corpus callosum, that part of your brain that connects the right brain/feminine side to the left brain/masculine side, just may be the seat of your soul. He just may be correct, and hence, it is my theory that your soul, itself, can bring your left and right into agreement and open the door to God’s blessings. Your mind and heart being the positive and negative sides of your ego. Your ego being the part of you created by God to survive in this world of the relative.

Author Gary Zukav said the purpose of life is to balance your ego with your soul. Carl Jung spoke of individuation coming from a balance of what he called the ego-Self axis.

I see it like a triangle, the ego at the bottom divided into masculine and feminine, the soul at the top where the two lines, both positive and negative, merge into a higher, balanced and whole version of itself/themselves.

But, how does the soul do this connecting of right and left, heart and mind?

A student of the chakras, the seven (main) energy centers that rule our physical bodies and health, will learn that it is the throat that stands between the heart and the mind. Could the throat also be another seat of the soul? Alberto Villoldo mentions a connection between a clear throat chakra and intuitive abilities.

So, to wrap up this thought. Your throat, is your center of expression. It is your voice. The having of an authentic voice, I dare say, is what stands between you and a balanced masculine and feminine side. A soulful voice. A creative voice. Where your heart says, “this is what I want to create,” and the mind says, “this is how you create it,” and your throat…actually creates “it.” Whether you are painting, singing, writing, dancing, cooking, you are speaking your authentic voice.

Man and woman come together to create “another.” It can be another human. Or symbolically, your inner male and female can come together to create whatever they/you desire…a beautiful painting, a story, a quilt, a fine meal, etc.

The yin and yang symbol has a dark and light side that make a circle of wholeness, two halves making a whole. And, they say, the two halves are rolling in constant conflict causing the tension and friction needed to “create” something new.

As we know, God is the Great Creator, the Great Artist, and all He needs is agreement between your inner yin and yang, so that He can answer your prayers. And, this agreement is made simply by channeling God’s creative energy into your life…through the speaking of your authentic voice…in whatever creative outlet you choose for yourself and for Him.

Storyteller or Liar?

A scene from “Everybody Loves Raymond.”

 

Helper or Saboteur?

A scene from “Everybody Loves Raymond.”

 

Problem Solver or Perfectionist?

A scene from “Everybody Loves Raymond.”

 

Conscious Conflict

I believe personalities are simply energies we flow in and out of each minute of the day.  One minute I may be a User, the next minute I turn into a Fighter.  It all depends on the energy that I am faced with at that particular time and my reaction to it.

When we begin to notice how we go in and out of these energies or personalities so fast, we might start to think we are crazy, but we’re not.  We are just human.  But it is better to deal with the energies than act like they do not exist…so that we can be in conscious conflict…instead of on the stormy waves of unconscious conflict.

Past the Eye of the Storm

I heard a weatherman say yesterday once the eye of the storm passes the strong winds begin blowing in the opposite direction. I had never thought of that before, but isn’t it so true. The big destructive storms (e.g., hurricanes, tropical storms, etc.) are circular in nature, and it is that circular pattern that causes the winds to change direction mid-storm. For example, when the storm first hits your area (the top of the circle) the winds might be blowing West, but once the eye of the storm passes, the bottom of the circle hits, and the winds start blowing East, instead.

This realization about storms got me thinking about life. When the destructive storms of life hit, the winds blow so hard, we don’t think we’re going to be able to stand up to them. But, if we hang on and keep pushing against the winds, it makes us stronger. Then, the peaceful eye of the storm hits, and we feel like we are in limbo. I suppose the eye is just a resting period, a time to catch our breath. Because the winds are going pick up again, but this time…to our metaphorical delight…they change direction and actually begin to help push us in the very direction we are trying to go.

God is amazing.

Polar Opposite Personalities: Soul Mates or Archenemies?

You may have met one…someone whose characteristics are completely opposite to yours. In the world of the relative in which we live, opposites are a common experience. In fact, they are what make the world go ’round, hence the North and South Poles. But, do opposites attract, as some say, or do they actually…attack?

When it comes to relationships, whether polar opposite personalities are soul mates or archenemies depends on if each person has chosen to act in his/her higher or lower natures. Two polar opposite personalities resonating at their higher octaves will experience each other as soul mates, complementing each other as they head in the same direction. Whereas, the lower octave versions will experience each other as archenemies, diabolically opposed to one another and heading in completely different directions.

I am sure all of us would prefer to relate to our opposites as soul mates, but how do we perform at our higher character levels instead of our lower character levels? Well…it comes down to whether or not we are approaching our relationships from love or from fear.

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